February is often associated with Valentine’s Day and celebrations of love. But not every expression of “love” is healthy. Sometimes behaviors that are framed as caring or protective can actually be controlling, manipulative, or abusive.
February also serves as an important opportunity to raise awareness about dating and intimate partner violence — and to highlight resources available to the UW–Madison community.
What Does an Unhealthy Relationship Look Like?
Healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, communication, and consent. When those elements are missing, it can be a sign of abuse.
According to love is respect, warning signs can include:
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Checking your phone, email, or social media accounts without permission
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Insulting you or putting you down — especially in front of others
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Isolating you from friends or family (physically, financially, or emotionally)
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Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
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Pressuring you to move faster in a relationship than you’re comfortable with
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Any form of physical harm or threat of harm
Abuse isn’t always physical. Emotional manipulation, coercion, digital monitoring, and controlling behavior are serious concerns and can escalate over time.
If You or Someone You Know Needs Support
Violence, abuse, and harassment are never the fault of the survivor. Support is available, and you are not alone.
On Campus
University Health Services (UHS) Survivor Services
survivorservices@uhs.wisc.edu
608-265-5600 (option 3)
In Madison
RCC Sexual Violence Resource Center
608-251-7273 (24/7 Helpline & Textline)
National Resources
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
www.nsvrc.org
877-739-3895
love is respect
www.loveisrespect.org
How UWPD Can Help
If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
To speak with UWPD at any time, call our non-emergency number at 608-264-2677.
UWPD officers are committed to supporting survivors with compassion, respect, and confidentiality. We can help connect you with campus and community resources and assist with safety planning.